Insight Dubai: Day Two

Monday!

Almost in the swing of things, we started off with a lovely breakfast before heading out.

That morning, it even sprinkled! Super rare, super cool. I liked it. A lot.

Fast forward> Buses, campus, buddy, orange group-> We made personal flags that represented each of us! It was a cool opportunity to give some thought into. Some girls weren't too sure so they used their own country's flag or made a variation of it, which was pretty neat.
It's interesting, because we connect even subconsciously to particular things in the world around us, and it's only when we're around those from different countries really that we consider our own.

Flag of Wales. Because who doesn't want a dragon on their flag?

My variation, I have since tossed but:
Large book because to me, knowledge is vital.
White pages for peace, because being angry won't get you anywhere and I've had to work on that throughout my entire life (I'm going to blame it on the red hair, ok?) One on page I created a family crest/shield.
This symbolized not only my European origins (a lot of that), but also my family today because I think the idea of family is important and it's definitely a help-meet in my life today.
On the other page, was a lotus flower from my days in China, and it symbolized beauty, for finding the pretty and happy things in life. Because let's face it, life can suck- but there's always a silver lining.
*This was based off some of my treasured values and priorities. So what's your flag?

This was the day we discussed Shar'iah law, and mainly covered the idea of child custody. Like I mentioned in the last post, tradition is struggling in some aspects of the Dubai life. Shar'iah law stems from both religion and culture and is used there today.
*The law shares similarities from other religions and cultures

We had a speaker on the topic, who is at the forefront of debate about child custody. The brand document, the Q'uran- about 300 out of the 6666 are considered legalities whereas the rest are about morals.
*Today, translation and interpretation has a huge effect. An example includes where it says "child" may imply boy or girl, but in some positions it does state "male child" where that may refer to male heir, so that could include a grown uncle, or any living male relative, no matter how far off they are.

In debates, the scholars gather to discuss such topics and they are connected to work on the the mechanism for the modern times. More is being brought to questionability and special circusmtances. After all, UAE because a federation in 1961 and it's grow 40000% in 40+ years.
These scholars are around "to keep in mind what is right, what is wrong"
*Head of state has the ability to reverse laws> not so that anything contradicts, but in the case that it is in the best interest of the nation.

So, to the case: the mother, who is revered in the culture, gets priority over a child. If not her, another woman. A father or male relative cannot raise their daughter without a woman there.
A case can go to a judge for an exception of the rules. Some of it applies as it does in the states- they decide if one is unfit, they decide who is a better parent, they give the child to family (father's mother is first choice) if neither parents are capable.
But they can't deny the parents' right to be in their child's life. In the UAE, family is a high priority and greatly respected.

Fun fact: In many government offices, they need at least one female on the board of directors.
Fun fact: women have been voting since 1991
Fun fact: women could inherit before women in the UK could inherit
Fun fact: house expenditures come from the man, not the women (children are not around for any sort of grocery shopping, just the parents do it)

Wills and inheritance: one doesn't usually decide as much. Stems from the man. He may will up to a third of his belongings but law dictates who gets what otherwise. Most likely, if there's something they really want to give to a particular person, it's best to give it to them while they are still alive.
Wife gets part, kids get part, and so on. It is very detailed law that is over 14 centuries old but it still seems to work well.

Since the growth of Dubai, the big problem is learning how to adapt: they want to preserve the good of the past, but they also want to adapt.

Gender relations are widely considered one of the biggest issues they are trying to resolve.Gender discrimination is an interesting topic, and to them it's really a point of perspective. They don't think they are being discriminatory, they are not trying to be rude, but it has a different form of understanding in their culture. Everything has a place, even when other cultures are calling them discriminatory. If you talk to them, you will learn that they are very kind and wonderful people. I haven't met anyone mean there. But some ideas don't make sense to them in their culture or religion.

An interesting topic is the idea of plural wives. My buddy's father has two wives. But it's not as easy as one might think. The law dictates that plural wives is for time of necessity- when women need to be cared for and there aren't enough men. The maximum is five wives. Today, if they already have one, they need to present evidence to why they need another wife, as well as share proof they can afford another wife. In addition to all this, they also need the other wife/wive's approval in a written agreement.

Additional facts from the day include:

For the evening was some sight-seeing fun!

We got to go through the town towards their Heritage Village.
It was pretty empty for the day that sprinkled on and off. Half the shops were closed since it was after 5 PM, but that didn't stop us from enjoying ourselves! We saw some original art, traditional art, and a place for the winds! There are four different names.

On top of one of the buildings, enjoying the view! Steep stairs, so watch out!

Told you.

It was so great walking around and enjoying the stroll! And luckily, it didn't stop. We kept on walking and walking until we passed through what I non-racially title the Hindu street. I know there's a particular name for it, but the name has escaped me. People from India have settled in Dubai with their temples and stores and they are so friendly and it's awesome bargaining with them! They have treasures like fun emrboidered pillows, soccer jerseys, jewelry, and other typical tourist must-haves.

After that, we got to go on a boat ride! Not sure if this counts as a dhow as the one we used on Friday, but we'll swing with it. Fit about 10-15 girls at a time and we took our time enjoying the river! (Actually, not a river? Still not clear. Someone got offended when I called it a river but I think it's water that flows to the ocean. Miscommunication, but I'm guessing that's it!)







I believe it's for their prayers that the Hindus make flower chains/necklaces for loved ones. Not too clear on it still, I apologize. But they smell super sweet and I made great friends with the girl, R, who gave them to our group. She is such a doll!

Talk about views!

And after all of the fun sight seeing, shopping, and boating, we finally headed down (past a porsche police car and a mercedes-bentley), to dinner! It was on a beautiful patio with fun lights on the palm trees and right next to the war. It was a spectacular view and it was fun watching other parties enjoy hookah and seeing kids play around.

 Definitely good time for bonding, making friends, and chilling out in the evening. We all enjoyed ourselves vastly before we eventually made it onto the buses and off to beds.

Insight Dubai: Day One

Sorry this took two weeks, folks. Let me make this up to you.

Myth 1: Dubai is in India.

Fact: False.

Dubai is not in India. Not even Saudi Arabia

Dubai is actually located in the United Arab Emirates. See that cute little eastern edge in the Persian Gulf just next to Saudi Arabia? Yeah, that's where. And you know what else? Dubai isn't even the capital. Let's take a closer look, shall we?

Look how cute it is. Like a... horse... thing.. thingy.

So quick overview of Dubai to straighten up why and what since we finally found out the where! Dubai is a fairly well known name. But as much as it may be a household name, it doesn't mean everyone really knows why they know it!

Super quick:

See, Dubai was something of a hole-in-a-wall about 40 years ago.  Mostly a desert town of huts, from what it sounds like. But then the men in power realized something needed to change as they discovered OIL. (huzzah) So they quickly started building. They broke world records. They have huge buildings unlike anywhere in the world. They created places to convince tourists it was worth the visit. After all, oil won't last forever. So they're making it into a place that can thrive on tourism when the oil runs out.

They have the world's tallest building, they used the city in Mission Impossible: Ghost Protocol, they have the world's tallest tower, they have HUGE malls ( a lot of them), and more. So that's Dubai. Today, almost 70% of residents are international, too.

Dubai is one of the most modern cities out of... something, I don't remember the particulars, sorry.

OKAY to SUNDAY:

I wanted to stay in the famous sail boat 7-star hotel, but apparently it's expensive.

We gathered in the lobby early that morning after a fun breakfast. The humidity was already affecting us and it made me worry about the afternoon. We met into our colored groups- I was the orange group, as was my roommate Chiara from Italy, and 5 others. When everyone was gathered, we piled into buses to drive about three blocks down to the university.

At first, it reminded me of the layout of southern California community colleges. Low buildings, gates, and a lot of shaded parking.

We gathered around the fountain to meet our buddies. One by one they began trickling in. We waited about half an hour, and mine still hadn't shown. Finally we headed inside and to the Orange Group.

There, we introduced ourselves and started into games! We played several and were fast friends by the close of that, laughing and making jokes. My buddy, M, arrived then too, and we were introduced.

Together we headed into the Multi Purpose Room for the introduction. "Engage your minds as well as your hearts." This was a big part of the theme, including the idea that we really are ambassadors. What sort of (culture) ambassadors do we need, and what kind are we? 

Film screenings! I love those!

One) Finding Mr & Mrs Right: Dubai Style

This was put together by the applied communications at the university a short while ago, It is also being shared at many movie festivals. 

*This documentary talks with many young adults, male and female, from Dubai about their opinions on marriage today. As the UAE grows more modern, it's growing difficult for some to stick with some traditions. Questions were asked and the answers came.

*The overall feeling was that every single one of them, at one point, believed marriage is important and that someday they wanted to settle down. While more of the guys wanted to marry right away, no matter their age, while the girls preferred the idea of waiting until around the age of 24, after they finished their schooling.

*Men wanted a vague idea of a housewife, women wanted understanding

*Arranged marriages are still the common form for marriages even today. However, acceptance is becoming more important. On the occasion that they know who they want to marry, they will discuss it with their parents. Ultimately, it is the family's decision on who the young adult marries.

*On the format of an arranged marriage, the parents talk and if the girl doesn't protest (which she can say no to), then they go ahead with it.

Does that worry you? It shouldn't. Women, unless they move away for their education which still isn't very often, always live with their families. Families are very important and are very connected with one another. They are close, and they trust each other. The women can trust their families to make a good choice for them.

-Fun fact: guys will drive around or walk around in malls and mutter or yell out their phone numbers for girls. Question: is that better than catcalling?

Two) Second Wife

Another documentary in the same style, also done by the university. Used in the Dubai Film Festival.

*Cars. I mean, there was a Porsche police car that I saw. Having a nice car is a big part of the fashion in Dubai, if not in more areas such as Saudi Arabia (though I cannot speak for them, but I have noticed it's popular there as well).

*The idea goes that the guy's car may be his first wife. They called it a piece of fashion, that it reflects their personality, and it's all about "capability" (most commonly used term for the men).  After all, they pointed out, "It never says no, and there's no waiting."

*As you can imagine, the girls think that's stupid. A few men thought so as well, but 80% of the men questioned consider their car as their most prized possession.

*The men's idea is "don't be a scrooge" but the girls are more practical and claim, "if you don't have the money, don't spend it." (Is that a male thing? If the US government was controlled entirely by females, how would our debt be now? I just thought of that. Huh.)

*Another quirky thing about these men and women is that cars are gender-based. The girls won't drive the big cars, but the smaller ones. The safer ones. Not the trucks. It just isn't normal.

-Fun fact: the idea for this documentary, we talked to the director, and she said she came up with the idea when a family member mentioned waywardly that he would have liked to marry his car. Her purpose for making this film was "to show there is a competition for ladies."

After lunch, there was a game!

This was all about cultural habits and differences. 

We picked cards and had to do a variety of things from our culture, such as singing, dancing, and drawing. There were topics we discussed such as luck, marriage, and more.

Overall, this activity really allowed us to connect, to find similarities and learn about others. As we found the differences, we found how we are the same.  We all have so much in common with others. All we have to do is talk to them to find out!

We finished fairly early- around 7- that evening. I gathered with the SUU girls, and we decided to try heading out somewhere cool. Unfortunately it took us a while to work out ideas, since we wanted to get to bed early and everything would take a while. Eventually, we made the decision to head down the street and check out the mall. Granted we walked in a few spots we shouldn't have and there was dirty sand and all, but hey it was pretty cool. The mall was extremely nice and big and there was a miniature amusement park in there as well!

Also, there's a buttload of American diners. Baskin Robbins, Applebees, Chili's, and more!

Throughout the day in all that we did and said, we learned to acknowledge values and virtues, as well as realize our own. Whether unconscious or conscious, we were widening our idea of community and our self awareness, and developing more in the realm of diplomacy.

All of this can strength relationships such as intercultural ties. The important thing to remember is to respect. 

First night there and I couldn't even find my hotel room. Not only that, but the hotel room keys stop working VERY OFTEN. First night I went back down three times before I could enter my room. That happened a lot to everyone.

Insight Dubai 2015 Introduction

Hey guys, it's Kaylee Petersen here once again on an adventure.

I had the opportunity to be one of five women at Southern Utah University chosen to attend the annual Insight Dubai conference in, of course, Dubai.

Don't worry, I will post about every day of the conference, excluding the very long airplane rides of course... unless anyone wants me to explain the plot of about twelve new movies I had the opportunity to watch? No? I didn't think so.

I had qualms of going, of course, and some suppositions of what to expect. And every day, I realized how wrong I was.

So here is my list of ideas that I may have been wrong or right about:

1. Dubai is in India

2. Few people speak English

3. There is street food

4. It. Is. So. Hot.

5. The people are very hospitable

6. I will learn much

7. There is no time to rest during the conference

To be honest, it might take a few days to get this all out, but I will do my best. Enjoy!